The version of you everyone sees has it all together. The real you feels exhausted and alone.
You're the woman or man who shows up, serves and smiles and says, "I'm fine," even when you know that fine is not the truth anymore. It hasn't been in a long time.
You look strong, dependable, faithful, helpful, and steady on the outside. But inside, you feel exhausted carrying a life that depends on you being useful, composed, needed, "spiritual", and okay all the time.
If that feels a little too accurate, this book was written for you.
The tiredness you can't explain is not a sign of your weakness or need of "rest". That tiredness exists because you've been performing "strength" and stifling your real self for too long.
Maybe you learned how to survive by saying yes, keeping the peace, staying useful, carrying the weight, and hiding your fears and addictions. It's better than being judged, rejected or abandoned.
Maybe you know how to power through and serve but not how to receive, rest, and ask for help. Maybe you love God and your loved ones but still don't trust people or do not know how to stop living like everything and everyone depends on you.
People praise this version of you all the time – the very version that hides and stifles the real you.
You do not need more kind but incomplete reassurance like, "all will be well, this is part of the course, and you are equipped for this", which leaves you alone inside the same patterns that got you here.
You need more than comfort that helps you endure. You need God-aligned truth and practical steps that help you live differently. You need to go back to the Garden of Eden.
I know what it looks like to keep going on the outside while something inside you keeps saying, "I don't know how much longer can I live like this."
I know what it is to build a life that looks admirable, responsible, faithful, and functional while struggling with addictions and feeling disconnected from what you feel, what you need, and who you are underneath the performance.
That is why readers keep saying this book feels like their diary, a mirror, or words for things they have carried quietly for years.
I did not write this to speak at you. I wrote it for the younger me who needed it. I wrote it to help you recognize yourself without shame, and give you practical steps that equip you to tell the truth about where you are, and begin walking how God designed you to walk.
"It was like a mirror being held up to my face — evoking emotions I didn't even know I had been carrying. I couldn't put it down."
"This entire book feels like a diary to my own life — the identity crisis, the people-pleasing, the silent addiction. I found myself crying, contemplating things I've carried for years, and finally at peace with parts of my story I thought would never settle."
"This book doesn't hold back. It's so honest and real. I felt like I was sitting there with her while she told the story. The story is so relatable. You'll see yourself in the pages. You'll understand yourself better. And you'll walk in greater faith, ready to embrace your pink flamingo"
Before fear entered the human story,
there was no hiding or performing.
In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve felt safe being seen by God, themselves, and each other. There was no shame or need to protect themselves from being seen. Then fear entered, and hiding and performance entered with it.
That pattern did not stay in Eden. It still shows up now in the ways we hide behind competence, church language, strength, busyness, control, usefulness, logic, or the need to be the one who never needs help. Performance is simply what that hiding looks like in public.
That is why In Search of the Pink Flamingo does not tell you what are you doing is wrong." It explores one question: "Where are you hiding and performing and how do you stop?"
This book helps you:
This is a mirror for the masks you wear to survive, and an invitation to stop hiding the person God created you to be - the person you bury to survive.
You Already Know Something Is Off
The costs keep growing every day you hide and perform. Your relationships stay shallower than you want. You feel more alone and unsupported than ever. You feel the exhaustion that comes with not trusting anyone and trying to control everyone and everything out of fear. Your connection with God keeps getting filtered through performance. The real you stay buried underneath the version of you that knows how to function.
Another year of "I'm fine" costs peace, closeness, honesty, and the life you keep telling yourself you will get to later, when things settle down or loved ones no longer need you.
How much longer do you want to keep living as the version of yourself fear built to survive when God created you for something more honest, supported, and whole?
You may have already read books, heard sermons, listened to podcasts, and tried to fix the fruit without ever getting to the root. You got help for symptoms and triggers when what you really needed was language for the pattern underneath them and practical steps to address the root issues.
This book is different because it does not shame you, rush you, or preach at you. It also does not tell you to be a better version of your survival self.
It helps you feel seen and equips you to stop organizing your life around fear. It gives you practical steps for interrupting old patterns, and a safer way to show up as your real self and begin telling the truth to God, yourself, and others.
You're invited back to your real self. You're invited into honest, wise, God-led living, one practical step at a time.
What this looks like on the page…
When you begin with In Search of the Pink Flamingo, you receive an entry point into living as your real self.
Inside, you will find:
Bonuses
This is not another thing to add to your list. This is what can finally start taking something off it.
Testimonials
"I fell in love with myself and who I can be while reading this book. It allowed me to breathe — to understand I am not alone, that it is okay to draw boundaries and create a safe space for myself."
"I just could not put the book down. There were so many things that resonated with me. I found myself crying so much. I'm not done with it yet. The pages that you gave for us to write things down... I have so much to process."
"I found this book to be so empowering. Reading the author's narrative on how trying to live up to others' expectations as a young teen caused several toxic traits going into adolescence and how to overcome this reality was truly eye opening. It's as if this book was operating on my heart as I read it. This was like therapy. I would encourage anybody with a Christian background who grew up in a salvation by works environment to read this book. It's packed with powerful anecdotes of God's transformational grace."
One reader sponsored 72 copies through our nonprofit. Several have bought multiple copies as gifts.
A few things you may be thinking right now…
"What if I don’t relate to this?"
Readers repeatedly describe it as a diary, a mirror, and words for what they had carried quietly for years.
"What if I already know this?"
Knowing and living it are two different problems. This book is not mainly about information. It is about recognizing the pattern and practicing a different way of being.
"I'm afraid of what I'll find?"
What you'll find is not judgment. It's the relief of finally knowing you're not alone and understanding yourself without shame.
"I never finish books."
Neither did Michelle Roberts — for years. She finished this one in a weekend.
"What if I'm too far gone?"
Perfection was never the requirement. The invitation is simply to stop hiding and begin where you are.
"I'm a man. Is this written for me?"
The hiding is human nature. The man who leads powerfully and feels entirely alone — he is in these pages. Several of the most passionate responses to this book have come from men who didn't expect to see themselves here. They did and screenshotted and shared page after page.
100% of every sale funds therapy for child sexual abuse survivors in the Caribbean
— so they can heal and not spend the rest of their lives hiding and performing out of fear.
You are not just going back to the Garden. You are helping someone else return.
You do not need to become someone else.
You need to stop hiding the person God already created.
If you are tired of carrying a self you were never meant to be, start here. Let this book help you name what fear taught you, uncover where you have been hiding, and answer the question God asked in the Garden of Eden: "Where are you?"
Start with In Search of the Pink Flamingo.