Love Others Without Losing Yourself.
You can love your neighbor AS yourself every single day - even when they're being 'total beasts' and you're fed up of the mess. This is the practical 'how-to' path for loving others in those messy, everyday moments without self-sacrificing, hardening your heart, or becoming someone you're not. No more silent suffering, second-guessing or resentment. Just confident, real connection.
But in the messy, everyday moments, how is that even possible?
You may be thinking: 'Chanel, you don't know my situation. How can I confidently navigate specific dynamics without just 'shutting down,' or 'always being the one to try and hold the peace?' How do I stop second-guessing if I'm conceding as a people-pleaser or truly practicing neighborly love? How do I stop feeling 'activated' by old patterns, emotionally drained, or resentful in the everyday moments?
"What am I supposed to do? What am I supposed to say? What am I supposed to think? How do I love myself AND them in those moments?"
You are right, I don't know your situation but God does. Every relationship is unique. And every trigger is different. But the skills for navigating those everyday moments while honoring God and loving your neighbor AS yourself? Those can be learned.
This isn't about memorizing scripts or becoming someone you're not. It's about a profound skill shift, rooted in your God-given "Pink Flamingo" identity, that works for your unique life.
I won't give you surface-level, 'just set boundaries' advice that feels impractical, or 'put yourself first' platitudes that clash with your values. You're past the awareness; you need the how-to for the messy, real-time decisions that cost you peace, trust, and energy.
I won't tell you what you should do, but I will equip you with the practical tools and frameworks to discover what's right for your unique situation, and the skills to confidently do it, even when others resist.
I've Walked This Exact "Grey Flamingo" Path.
I was the poster child of self-sacrifice for 20-odd years. It took two burnouts and almost losing my mind and life to have my come-to-Jesus moment.
I accepted God's invitation to end my self-sacrificial folly. I was tired of abandoning myself, being 'bitter' and giving into relationships 'more than they deserved.' Then I rejected the common advice to 'put myself first'. I realized it was a disguised invitation to be someone I am not – to embrace a kind of selfishness that required me to harden my heart and step on others to ensure my well-being.
That's not God's way. And that's not who I am.
At the feet of Jesus and through godly mentorship, I learned a different path: how to truly love my neighbor AS myself. My life and relationships transformed. I became the 🦩 Pink Flamingo - confidently showing up as myself, loving God, myself, AND others from overflow, not emptiness.
"It helped me discover a lot about my identity. I've gotten so many valuable and practical tools and strategies on how to anchor myself in the identity that God gave me and show up as my truest self in different areas of life. I know God sees me. I know how I should show up as his daughter first, and what He has called me to do. It's like a navigation group with Chanel being used by God as the navigator to help us."— C
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You're Doing Deep Work... But Those Everyday Moments Still Trip You Up.
You're doing the deep work – you're uncovering the roots of your self-sacrifice, pulling back the mask, and determined to live as your truest self. But your healing feels fragile. Every day, you hit moments that threaten to hurl you right back onto the 'Grey Flamingo' Path because you don't know what to do, say, or think – and it's costing you your peace, trust, and energy.
The "What Do I Say/Do?" Panic
You're trying to view things differently, but in the heat of the moment, when 'old scripts are running,' you're affected by your own reactivity. Someone says something, doesn't do something, or you get triggered by familiar patterns. You're left second-guessing your motivation, unsure if you're being 'neighborly love' or 'people-pleasing,' and often creating the very relational tension you dread.
The Resistance From Others
Other people and your loved ones are used to the 'old you.' When you start honoring yourself, they push back or keep doing what they've always done. You fear losing relationships, or worse, feeling like you have to prove your perspective or sanity when you're misunderstood.
The "One Step Forward, Two Steps Back" Spiral
You've made progress, but you're still going in circles, feeling emotionally drained or defeated by the end of the day. You hesitate to do what you know is right, paralyzed by fear of repercussions, disappointing loved ones, or making things 'awkward.' You crave clarity on how to stand firm without guilt.
These daily moments aren't just frustrating - they're costing you your peace, energy, and the deepest connections you crave.
"It helps me see the ways my people-pleasing strategies are no longer working and break the cycle, creating new pathways that feel aligned to divinity. The activities challenge you, and there's grace for it all."— K
I Know You Want a Life Where Your Deepest Desires Are Your Daily Reality…
You want to be fully seen, heard, held, and protected without judgement.
You are ready to let down the walls and let yourself and loved ones see, know and accept the real you. No more masks. No more pretending to God, yourself or others.
You want to express your true emotions, hopes, wants and needs.
No more burying feelings or pretending everything is okay when it's not. You want to confidently voice them without fear of upsetting the apple cart.
You want deep vulnerable relationships built on trust, not your performance.
You want to show up for others and have them show up for you. You want intimate connections, free from the pressure to prove your worth.
"It helps me anchor myself in the identity God gave me... showing up as my truest self. The activities are easy to do, yet very profound because they make you get still with God."— C
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The Secret: Mastering The Skill Of Loving Yourself AND Others.
This journey isn't about navigating life without boundaries or becoming cold-hearted. It's about mastering the practical, God-aligned skills to love your neighbor as yourself, in flow with God. To respond, not react. To confidently pause, stand in your truest "Pink Flamingo" self, and figure things out – even in the 'walking through the fire' moments. It's a way to finally:
See and love yourself AND others through God's eyes.
Hear, trust and honor your voice and God's voice.
Master honest empathetic communication about your hopes, desires, needs and emotions.
Give from your overflow and consistently receive abundance, joy and peace.
Ask for help, trusting God, yourself and others with your truest self.
This is the path to confidently living as your truest God-designed self, serving others without sacrificing yourself.
"Whether it's in my relationship with my husband or with a friend or with my job or with my business or you know in a variety of daily living, I feel like [the Club] has been an intentional and godly way to stay the course. The activities are intentional. They do challenge you and when you are challenged, you have the opportunity to choose what you are going to do."- K
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For Those Who Refuse the Grey Flamingo Way of Living
You're done performing. Done over-functioning. You're tired of 'all theory, no practice' and feeling stuck in awareness without action. You're ready to walk in the peace, joy, and freedom of confidently being your truest God-designed "Pink Flamingo" self as you show up for others – but you need practical guidance for the 'how-to' in everyday moments and a trusted flock to get there faster.
This is "The Pink Flamingo Club" for you.
The Club IS for you if you:
Are actively healing from self-sacrificial patterns
Ready to remove the mask and live consistently as your Pink Flamingo self
Need practical guidance and blindspotters for those messy real-time moments
Are ready to do the inner work required for lasting transformation
Want a community where you can give support AND be held
Want to serve others while honoring yourself and God
The Club is NOT for you if you:
Are looking for therapy or a quick fix
Want to blame others instead of taking responsibility
Aren't willing to be vulnerable or do the work
Are seeking surface-level encouragement without depth
Want to continue self-sacrificial behaviors while complaining about results
Introducing: The Pink Flamingo Club – Your Live Practice Ground & Flock.
An intimate, safe space designed to equip you to finally bridge the gap between awareness and action. You'll learn what to do and how to do it in the daily moments that test your new identity, so you can love others as your truest 'Pink Flamingo' self – without feeling emotionally drained, resentful, or second-guessing if you're being 'selfish.'
Finally get the support, practical tools, and real-time practice you need so you know precisely WHAT TO DO and HOW TO DO IT, even when they're being total beasts and you're fed up with the chaos or when you're afraid to show up as a human and be vulnerable.
The Club activities are rooted in a practical "how-to", faith-aligned framework that combine:
Identity Mastery:
Anchor into your truest "Pink Flamingo" self - so your worth, standards, boundaries, actions and way of thinking are rooted in who God says you are and who you desire to be - not what you do for others, what you think is possible, defensiveness or what others think.
Emotional Mastery:
Navigate your feelings and express your heart with confidence, so you can respond as your truest "Pink Flamingo" self rather than react in challenging moments. Deepen relationships through emotional honesty and empathy instead of suppression and judgement.
Relational Mastery:
Skillfully love others as yourself in every area of life so you have deeper relationships without trying to control people or outcomes. Set boundaries that align with and increase your capacity to be your truest "Pink Flamingo" self while discerning healthy relationship dynamics and receiving support from others.
This is building skills through equipping you with tools applicable to every life situation and creating the space for immediate application and intimate community support so you love others without losing your truest "Pink Flamingo" self daily.
Here's What You Get Inside The Pink Flamingo Club
Monthly Live, Interactive 2-Hour Flamboyances (Sessions):
(Limited to just 10 members per flock! Calls are not recorded.) This is your dynamic, confidential space to:
- Remove the Mask, Be Witnessed & Celebrated: Share breakthroughs, be celebrated and called to a higher standard by your trusted flock.
- Anchor Into Your Identity & Dream Again, Dream Bigger: Guided exercises and dares to discover & honor your truest "Pink Flamingo" self.
- Get Guidance for Everyday Moments: Bring your toughest real-life challenges – from unsolicited advice to relational tension. Through guided role-playing and scenario coaching, you'll practice exactly what to say/do and how to say/do it so you know how to respond to criticism, express anger healthily, set boundaries, and deal with 'unsolicited advice' without losing your peace or feeling drained. Uncover identity, emotional, and relational blind spots.
Private WhatsApp Witnessing Group:
A supportive, judgment-free space where you can share reflections on your monthly Dare, celebrate progress, and witness others' journeys. It's about building trust and psychological safety as you step into new ways of being, not endless chatting.
Pink Flamingo Dares Challenge:
(Integrated within the Club) Bite-sized actional dares for consistency, within the supportive context of your flock.
Exclusive Monthly Insights:
Blog posts or member-only reflections that expand on teachings and address common challenges.
Give Back:
Fulfill your desire for social impact and leave a lasting legacy. 10% of all revenue funds grassroots organizations focused on healing the psychological wounds of Caribbean slavery. Your investment helps to heal generations while you heal yourself, allowing you to model healthier patterns for kids and make a profound difference.
"It's a sacred space... I feel God's presence in the club. It gives me access to a spiritual home, a sisterhood... The activities are perspective shifting — like pulling up old weeds, putting in new fertilizer. And I like that community, with different women from different walks of life, you have this variety of perspectives and insight, and you realize that your personal struggle is not a unique one."- J
Join Your Flock. Commit to Yourself. Commit to Peace.
Monthly Membership
per month. Cancel anytime.
Annual Membership
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Limited to just 4 flocks with only 10 members per flock for deep connection. Let's do this together.
Not Sure If The Pink Flamingo Club Is For You?
Join our next FREE Pink Flamingo Taster Flamboyance (Session).
Are you battling perfectionism, afraid to get it wrong, or unsure if this will truly be different from other programs that only offered 'theory, no practice?' Experience our live, interactive community, get powerful insights, and ask questions. It's the perfect way to see if our flock is your next home – without commitment or the fear of 'getting it wrong.'.
YES! RESERVE MY SPOT IN THE FREE TASTER SESSION!Frequently Asked Questions
When Are Flamboyances?
Monthly on fourth Thursdays at 6-8pm EST. WhatsApp engagement is ongoing.
Can I drop in?
No drop-ins. Your spot is held in your assigned flock. Monthly focus activity is available in WhatsApp if you miss a session. Not recorded for confidentiality.
Commitment duration?
Month-to-month membership, cancel anytime. Our goal is equipping you with skills, not keeping you indefinitely. Our Clubs usually run for a year.
Is this only for Christians?
No. We do talk about God A LOT. So, you must be interested in learning to live as someone who honors God, yourself AND others.
Is this only for women?
No. Men and women are welcome.
Ready to transform your relationships and find your peace?