30. Single…and A Virgin. Why the wait?
At 30 years old, there are two questions I get asked quite a lot. The answers to both these questions are linked…and definitely not what most people think. A common assumption is that I’m a virgin because I am a Christian. And that I am single because I do not have options. Both couldn’t be […]
A Near Drowning – A Lesson In Male Leadership & Female Submission
I almost got swept away by strong river currents last week. As I reflected on the moment, the Lord dropped a bombshell on me about men’s roles as leaders and women’s submissiveness that I’d like to share with you. But first, let me share the story of my near drowning. My friend and I visited […]
Get In The Box, you Jezebel!
“Get in the box, you Jezebel!” If you’ve watched the movie, Barbie, you probably instantly recognize that famous Will Ferrell line. He screamed it in irritation as Barbie takes too long to reenter the box that would return things to “normal”. But this post is not about people who try to force us into “normal” […]
Marriage at 25 Would Have Been The Worst Thing for Me. How Ready Are You?
One of the most frequent questions I get is “When are you getting married?” For many years that question made me uncomfortable because my dream was to be married by my 25th birthday. But you know what? I’m really glad that I didn’t get married at 25 like I planned and others expected. Growing up, […]
The Nicest Person Ever. But A Horrible Friend.
I was said to be one of the nicest person ever but I was a horrible friend for years. And I had no clue. Let me share the back story. A few years ago, when my corporate and church career were just taking off, my friends from other spheres of my life often invited me […]
Giving it all away to charity…
“Chañel, give it all away to charity…” 🤔 The first time I heard the Holy Spirit whisper to me about the book’s proceeds. I ignored Him. I must have heard wrong. He raised it multiple times over the next year. At some point, I began to bargain. “God, how about 10%? I mean that’s a […]
The weird place I wrote my book + the surprising benefit
I’m about to burst a big myth about the best place to write a book. I wrote most of “In Search of the Pink Flamingo” in a steel panyard as I spent time with my friend, Sunshine, in Canada. My laptop and I had the time of our lives (cue the Dirty Dancing reference) as […]
I wore a mask for 25 years.
I wore a mask for 25 years and thought it was normal. None of those things are normal. They are not what God intended for us… not by a long shot. My book, In Search of the Pink Flamingo, is a love letter to you and my former self. I share real-life anecdotes, insightful reflections, […]
Are You a Cheap Date?
I recently had a memory that left me doubled over with laughter. During my corporate days, my boss and I would often walk down to a nearby food court to grab coffee or a snack as we caught up on the work I was doing and how he could assist me. Each time we reached […]
You Deserve Better From You
Today marks the anniversary of a very defining moment in my life. June 20, 2020, I experienced a moment where I felt like everything I had hoped for and trusted God with fell part. I was left with nothing but a broken heart and roaring mind after someone I loved and trusted hurt me deeply. […]