How to deal with feeling like you’re back at square one
“You’re not ready for the love you desire, yet.” The small voice of God whispered to me in the dark room as I retched violently into the toilet for what seemed like the 50th time that early morning. It had been a very emotional day. What was supposed to be a fun getaway weekend with […]
3 Strategies for dealing with moments when someone assumes the worst about you, though they said they love and respect you
There is a particular kind of sting that happens when the person who once praised you and spoke your name with gratitude now speaks it with suspicion. When someone assumes the worst about you, they once walked with you and said they respected you. The one who said, “Your integrity is rare,” now questions your […]
If you find it hard to receive without overthinking, here are 3 reasons smiling and saying ‘Thank you’ doesn’t stop your overthinking
For the one who finds it hard to receive without overthinking: Here are 3 reasons why smiling and saying ‘Thank you’ doesn’t stop your overthinking. And here’s how to uplevel your ability to receive from others without feeling guilty, fearing the cost or wondering if they’re sorry for you. Reason #1: You still believe that […]
14 things people forget to mention about learning to trust yourself as a recovering people-pleaser
When you give to get love, approval, or validation, you unknowingly accept an emotional bribe that trades your identity and future for temporary acceptance. This post explores how Jesus modeled truth-filled responsiveness, helping you unlearn people-pleasing habits and show up as your truest, God-aligned self—your radiant Pink Flamingo self – in everyday moments.
Stop Accepting Emotional Bribes: How to respond in ways that align with who you truly are instead of the usual reacting.
When you give to get love, approval, or validation, you unknowingly accept an emotional bribe that trades your identity and future for temporary acceptance. This post explores how Jesus modeled truth-filled responsiveness, helping you unlearn people-pleasing habits and show up as your truest, God-aligned self—your radiant Pink Flamingo self – in everyday moments.
People-pleasing Recovery and the Fear of Burdening Others Financially…
I stole money for the first time when I was six years old. I wanted a sweet for weeks, but didn’t think asking my mom was an option. We couldn’t afford it. And I did not want to stress her out. I didn’t want to burden her financially. So, I did the next best thing. […]
From “You’re Stupid” to “I’m Enough”: Reclaiming Your God-Given Worth
Peals of laughter ran throughout the classroom. To my sensitive ears and heart, they sounded mean. This was not the approval that the desert of my heart needed to water it. The laughter ran on one broken track record, “You are an idiot. You are not enough.” The sounds demolished the satisfaction I’d felt moments […]
How to Love Your Enemies When Your Loved Ones Feel Like Foes
“You have heard the law that says, ‘Love your neighbor’ and hate your enemy. But I say, love your enemies! Pray for those who persecute you! In that way, you will be acting as true children of your Father in heaven. For he gives his sunlight to both the evil and the good, and he […]
From Exhausted to Empowered: Find Your People-pleasing Recovery Stage
Hours after a tough convo, you’re still replaying what you said, wondering if you were “too much” or “spoke too harshly”. Maybe they’re secretly mad at you. You did the work and set the boundary. And yet… your energy is drained, your mind won’t stop spinning, and the relationship feels tense. Maybe you’re failing at […]
4 Flamingo States: Who Are You Showing Up As As You Recover From Self-Sacrifice?
What do you do when you’re in the middle of a messy situation that feels like it has been going on forever and you’ve tried everything and the person just refuses to change? Your have more options that you think. You don’t have to choose them over yourself. And you don’t have to protect yourself […]